The other day, back in summer, I was having a chat with a corporate client after a workshop, and we got talking about mangoes. They mentioned that their mother till date doesn’t consume one full mango. And I was reminded that it was the case in our household too. Either a few mangoes were cut and we all had to share, or we had to ensure that there was a mix and match so everyone gets to taste all the mangoes, and that there is no one left with a not-so-sweet mango. The result, you can’t have a full mango alone..
Now this mango really stands for so many things that get packaged in our beliefs, doesn’t it? It is what we believe we are worthy of.. It could be a high-paying job. It could be loving relationships.. it could be perfect health.. If I believe that I don’t deserve any of this, then it is not going to come my way.. worse still, one can get caught in the pattern of hit and miss, which is so hurtful and frustrating. the belief that I have to earn worthiness..
Interestingly enough, when we first attempt to think differently, through any of the CBT or thought change models, the guilt of not obeying what was taught to us is paramount. The journey is in recognising and choosing to let go of the old to embrace the new, so we can all enjoy that full mango, guilt free! What do you think?
If you wish to explore this area at a deeper level, I invite you to join us for a two hour Zoom workshop “I deserve…” on Sunday, 27th August. 10 am to 12 noon. Do comment if you’d like to sign up.