Loneliness is lovely

 

Source: Speaking Tree

 

The supreme bestows loneliness on people to provide them with an opportunity to search for their true selves and get connected to the supreme source of love and joy. In loneliness, you can hear the sounds of true harmony, rhythm and perfection of the universal design. Use this loneliness to create something beautiful by developing a hobby that engrosses your whole attention. It may be reading, painting, gardening, even music.

Maybe, through your hobby, you will get a friend or co-traveller of your own frequency. Any time that is “Me-time” is a good idea, where one can connect with oneself. It can be anywhere, even in the bathroom or just before sleeping. Physically space, if available, is a boon.

Don’t let loneliness depress you. Everything is divine about our true self. And depression is not an illness or disease. It is a plateau given by nature to know the true meaning and importance of detachment. In the complete life cycle of a human being, plateaus of depression are sure to happen at least 7-10 times at an interval of 8-12 years. When a mentally evolved human finds the world meaningless or shall we say when the true face of the world becomes visible, to an emotional and sensitive individual, then this state of plateau is created. Mental hurt is not the only reason for it. A break or hindrance in the mental, spiritual and economic growth can also be a reason for this condition.

A human who does some soul-searching, meditation and contemplation surfaces through these plateaus due to his own will-power (soul power) and gets a new life, new energy and moves forward. However, whosoever indulges in it gets mentally ill-balanced, can also harm himself, which is sin, an insult to the internal powers of the human.

Only the person who goes through depression and emerges as a better human being can contribute towards humanity and is capable of bearing future plateaus.

Depression is just a plateau; a base-camp to reach the topmost, highest peak. You cannot reach the top of the peak in one breath; you will break, disintegrate on the way. Learn how to move forward with enthusiasm, after complete rest and preparation at these base camps.

So, loneliness is not be shunned, but utilized for growth, and for knowing thy true self. That is the only way! The journey never ends, and simultaneously, we can fulfill our worldly duties along with inner growth. Nothing is to be renounced, for we just need to know how to sail through it peacefully, gracefully and our entire might to slowly become wiser and more at peace and at ease with our own self.

Everything happening in life is there to propel us towards growth and transformation. A human being has all the potential to perceive and derive positivity from every condition.

How to stay motivated when self employed?

Feeling demotivated with no boss to boss over you? Here’s how you can keep yourself going

Source: Mumbai Mirror

You have been employed your entire career, but have now decided to be by your own and start your own project/business. But being your own boss also means being highly-disciplined. There’s a chance that you may procrastinate over the smallest tasks. Here’s how you can find motivation when self-employed:

Set a Schedule:

If you do the kind of work that allows you to work at any time during the day, figure the hours that suit you best. Then allocate the number of work hours you will devote to that task each day. It’s a good idea to grab a weekly planner and highlight the hours you will work from Monday to Friday. This will help administer your day better at home and set your focus right.

Set a Deadline:

Establish a realistic deadline for the completion of a project. Then make sure that your client knows about the specified time when you are expected to deliver the assignment. This will create accountability and keep you motivated to complete the work. Make sure you do not let yourself down after locking on a specified time; else you will risk losing credibility.

Remind yourself Why You Quit:

This is especially true when you get caught up with chores and other household responsibilities, such as buying groceries and answering the door. Place it somewhere where it’s in your range of vision. After starting your own work, it becomes easy to forget what drove you to quit your job. Write it down on a big sheet of paper, like a mission statement, describing why you chose to be self-employed.

Take a Break:

The distinction between workplace and home dies the moment you decide to work from home. It is important that you give yourself some breathing space to think ahead. Occasionally, eat lunch away from the computer. It may be a good idea to meet an ex-colleague over lunch and discuss your progress and brainstorm ideas. Or take a walk in your neighbourhood to clear your mind. Or do some high-intensity workout. This will help you stay focused for long.

Don’t sell yourself short:

In case you have not been able to nail any good assignments of late, don’t get tempted to work for less than the industry standards or what you think you are worth. Undercutting on the money front will devalue your ability and hamper your motivation to find the next assignment. Set a minimum charge and stick to it. It will build your reputation in the industry. Besides, you have house rent and bills to pay.

Look for work consistently:

Once you have quit your job, there are no bosses to assign responsibilities. Also, without inter-office camaraderie, working alone can get lonely and demotivating. You must network and look for work consistently. Set up meetings and get out to network with clients. Try to attend small business networking functions or press conferences and make resourceful contacts.

How-You-See-YourselfThe Man In The Glass

When you get what you want in your struggle for self,

And the world makes you King for a day,

Then go to the mirror and look at yourself,

And see what that man has to say.

For it isn’t your Father, or Mother, or Wife,

Whose judgement upon you must pass.

The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life

Is the man staring back from the glass.

He’s the fellow to please, never mind all the rest,

For he’s with you clear up to the end,

And you’ve passed your most dangerous, difficult test

If the man in the glass is your friend.

Others may call you a straight shooting chum,

And think you’re a wonderful guy,

But the man in the glass says you’re only a bum

If you can’t look him straight in the eye.

You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years,

And get pats on the back as you pass,

But your final reward will be heartaches and tears

If you’ve cheated the man in the glass.